S1:E26 Everyday Resilience: The Secret to Lifelong Grit

Building Everyday Resilience: Turn Pain into Purpose and Develop Lifelong Grit

In this episode of the Flourishing After Adversity podcast, host Laura Mangum Broome explores the concept of everyday resilience and how small daily choices build lifelong grit. Learn to recognize everyday resilience, avoid common pitfalls, and apply the iCope2Hope Resilience Framework to transform adversity into strength. 

Broome shares practical tips, including identifying controllable factors, adopting a growth mindset, and leveraging personal strengths. Tune in to discover strategies to stay grounded, keep moving forward, and find purpose through adversity. If life's challenges have left you feeling overwhelmed, you're in the right place for practical tools to build resilience and hope.

00:00 Introduction to Everyday Resilience
01:31 Understanding Adversity and Grit
03:35 Building a Growth Mindset
04:54 Harnessing Your Superpowers
06:08 Practical Resilience Practices
07:21 Adapting to Life's Detours
08:28 The Power of Hope
08:59 Conclusion and Next Steps

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Transcript

S1:E26 Everyday Resilience: The Secret to Lifelong Grit

 
Introduction to Everyday Resilience

Ever wonder why some people keep going? When life falls apart, it's not luck. It's everyday resilience. Learn how small daily choices quietly build lifelong grit.  Welcome to the Flourishing After Adversity podcast. I'm your host Laura Mangum Broome, Resilience Coach and author of Flourishing After Adversity.

If life has thrown you. Curve balls, loss illness.  Heartbreak or change you never asked for. You're in the right place Here. We talk about how to turn pain into purpose and find the strength to keep moving even when life feels heavier than you ever imagined.  Today we're talking about everyday resilience, the quiet strength that builds your grit for the long road ahead.  By the end of this episode, you'll know how to recognize what everyday resilience looks like.  Avoid the traps that drain your strength and apply the iCope2Hope Resilience Framework to develop lifelong grit.  

But before we dive in, I have a free resource that pairs perfectly with today's topic. If negative thoughts have been spiraling after a setback. Download, reframe the spiral. Five quick coping strategies to shift negative thoughts and reclaim your day. It's short, practical, and has helped me on some of my hardest days.

You'll find the link in the show notes. Now, let's get started. 

Understanding Adversity and Grit

Imagine standing at the starting line of a marathon. You've trained for months, the sky's gray. The air feels heavy, and you can't tell if that drizzle is about to turn into a storm.  The horn blasts.

Everyone bursts forward with excitement and energy. By mile three,  the crowd thins. By mile 10, the chatter fades by mile 20. Pain sets in and the real race begins. That's what adversity feels like.  The start, is full of adrenaline and hope, but when life hits, mile 20, when you're tired, discouraged, and tempted to quit, grit is what carries you to the finish line.  When life falls apart, most people try to muscle through it. They want to feel ready, but readiness never comes. They sprint through the first mile, pushing too hard, too fast, and burnout before they've even found their rhythm.  They rely on motivation alone, but motivation fades. When progress slows,  they isolate thinking no one could possibly understand.

And they fixate on what's been lost instead of what's still possible. Sound familiar? I've been there too.  The truth is grit isn't born in crisis. It's built in the ordinary moments in traffic jams, disappointments, and plans that fall apart.   Each small act of perseverance trains your resilience for when real storms arrive your grit is trained long before the big race begins.  When runners hit the wall, their body screams. I can't,  their mind has to answer.

I can. Now, I'm not a runner, but when I'm exercising I tell myself just five more minutes.  And then when I get to the end of that five minutes, I just ask myself, just do five more minutes more. 

Building a Growth Mindset

That's the growth mindset, the belief that your abilities can improve through effort and patience.  Psychologist Carol Dweck and author Angela Duckworth both discovered that people who see failure as feedback, not finality, build more grit.

Without that mindset, every setback feels like defeat with it, every setback becomes training.  Here's what doesn't work. Wishing circumstances were different. Comparing your journey to others expecting change. To feel easy.  Let me share what does work. Radical acceptance. Acknowledging what's out of your control so you can focus on what is in your control.

Yet thinking, replace, I can't with, I can't yet.  Reframing setbacks instead of I failed. Say, I learned. 

Practical Steps for Everyday Resilience

Here's your quick practice for this week. Write down one challenge you're facing right now.  List two things you can control and one you can't.  Circle the controllable items.

That's where your focus belongs. Growth mindset is the starting line of grit. Without it, you'll never make it past mile one. 

Harnessing Your Superpowers

If grit is the race, your superpowers are your fuel qualities like courage, compassion, humor, and faith.  They're what keep you moving when motivation runs dry.

Duckworth calls this deliberate practice showing up, improving in small ways and staying consistent even when it's not exciting,  what people try that doesn't work. Chasing motivation, it's emotional and it fades depending on others' approval.  Skipping recovery as if rest equals weakness.  What does work?

Identify your strengths. Look for times you surprised yourself.  Practice small, consistent actions. 10 focused minutes a day. Beat random burst of intensity.  Anchor in purpose? Ask yourself, why does this matter to me? Purpose gives grit direction.

This week. Think of one hard thing you've already walked through. What strength helped you Push through it. That's one of your superpowers. Use that same strength intentionally this week, especially when frustration shows up.  When you apply these strengths to small everyday choices, like keeping promises, making that phone call, choosing patience.

You're training your resilience for what's ahead.  No one starts a marathon with 26 miles. They start with one everyday Resilience is the training ground for grit. It's how you handle the small, unexpected disruptions, the flat tires, the arguments. The late night worries each time you stay grounded.

Instead of reactive, you strengthen emotional stamina.  Think of it as cross training for your mind. Keep promises to yourself to build trust.  Choose gratitude to strengthen optimism.  Breathe instead of react to practice composure.  Each small recovery is a lap around the track of growth.

Here are three simple practices  End your day by naming one thing you handled better than yesterday.  Keep a short resilience log to track your calm responses. Celebrate even the tiniest recoveries.  Those small wins compound into lifelong grit. 

Adapting to Life's Detours

Every marathon has detours.

So does life. You can't control the terrain, but you can control how you adapt.  My iCope2Hope Resilience Framework teaches you to think creatively when life changes the route.  When one door closes, grit builds a new doorway.  What doesn't work? Clinging to the old plan. Ignoring fear. Chasing perfection.

What  does work?  Ask better questions instead of Why me  Ask what now?  Experiment with small solutions, progress over perfection.  Find purpose in the detour.  Even wrong turns. Build wisdom  when you feel stuck. Brainstorm three ways forward. Choose one small action to take within 24 hours and reflect on what you learned, not just what worked.

This is where growth becomes creative. Adversity stops being the end of your story and becomes the chapter where transformation begins. 

The Power of Hope

Hope is what keeps your feet moving. When the path feels endless, it doesn't erase pain, it gives it meaning.  In my own life through breast cancer, losing my teenage son a heart transplant and a sudden divorce at 58. Hope was the breath that kept me going. It didn't make the mile shorter, but it gave each one purpose. When you pair hope with the iCope2Hope Resilience Framework, you don't just recover, you flourish.


Conclusion and Next Steps

Let's quickly review what we covered today.  Everyday resilience builds grit long before crisis hits.  A growth mindset turns challenges into training  your superpowers, your courage, humor, faith, are your fuel  thinking creatively keeps you adaptable when life changes course and hope that steady flame keeps you breathing through it all. 

Grit isn't born in crisis. It's trained in the ordinary. Each act of everyday resilience, choosing gratitude, showing up, staying hopeful, builds endurance for the bigger miles ahead. You may not see results right away, but trust this every small step is strengthening the person you're becoming when the next storm arrives and it will, you'll already have the stamina to finish strong. 

If you're ready to start rebuilding your confidence from the inside out, I'd love to talk with you. Schedule a free 15 minute clarity call using the link in the show notes.  Together we'll identify what's holding you back and design your next small, powerful step toward lasting resilience.

And don't forget, download your free guide, reframe the Spiral, five quick coping strategies to shift negative thoughts and reclaim your day. You'll find that link in the show notes too.  That's it for today's episode of Flourishing After Adversity. If this message encouraged you, please subscribe so you'll never miss an episode.

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Choose better! You've got this!