Flourishing After Adversity
If you've experienced grief, illness, loss, or life-altering setbacks—and you're ready to reclaim your joy—this podcast is for you.
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Flourishing After Adversity
S1:E21 Stop Giving Away Your Power and Losing Your Joy
S1:E21 Stop Giving Away Your Power and Losing Your Joy
In this episode of the Flourishing After Adversity podcast, host Laura Mangum Broome discusses how to regain control of your happiness by identifying and reclaiming the power you've given away. Laura shares practical steps to develop a growth mindset, discover your inner strengths, and think creatively to move forward. She introduces her iCope2Hope resilience framework and the iCOPE Problem Solving Method to help listeners take actionable steps towards healing and flourishing. The episode also debunks common myths about reclaiming power and provides actionable tasks to start making positive changes today.
00:00 Introduction: Taking Control of Your Happiness
00:23 Meet Your Host: Laura Mangum Broome
00:55 Free Resource: Reframe the Spiral
01:18 Annie's Story: Realizing Personal Power
01:53 The Trap of Giving Away Power
02:52 Building Resilience: The iCope2Hope Framework
02:59 Step 1: Develop a Growth Mindset
03:46 Step 2: Discover Your Superpowers
04:15 Step 3: Think Outside the Box
04:50 The iCOPE Problem Solving Method
05:28 The Benefits of Reclaiming Your Power
05:55 Debunking Myths About Power
06:35 Action Steps to Reclaim Your Power
07:08 Recap and Final Thoughts
07:49 Closing Remarks and Call to Action
Free Resource: Reframe the Spiral: 5 Quick Coping Strategies to Shift Negative Thoughts and Reclaim Your Day https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe
iCope2Hope 3-Step Resilience Framework: https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap
Website: iCope2Hope: From Hardship to Hope https://www.icope2hope.com
Move Beyond Adversity Blog: https://www.icope2hope.com/blog
Free Newsletter: Wednesday’s Resilient Recharge https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter
Have you ever caught yourself waiting for someone else to change so you can finally feel happy again? In today's episode, we're talking about how to stop giving away the keys to your happiness. By the end of this episode, you'll know how to recognize when you've handed away your power, how to take it back, and how that simple but courageous shift can reclaim your joy. Welcome to the Flourishing After Adversity podcast. I'm your host, Laura Mangum Broome resilience coach and author of Flourishing After Adversity, a three step action plan to transform pain into purpose and embrace joy again. If you've been knocked down by life. Grief, illness loss, or unexpected change, you're in the right place Together, we'll turn setbacks into stepping stones because healing, growth and joy are just the beginning. Before we dive in, are you stuck in loops of negative thinking? I have a free resource to help. It's called Reframe the Spiral. Five Quick Coping Strategies to Shift Negative Thoughts and Reclaim Your Day. These are tools I use myself when my mind spirals after a setback. You can grab it through the link in the show notes. For years, Annie lived like everyone else, held the keys to her happiness. Annie's boss decided if her work mattered. Annie's spouse's mood decided if her day went well. Annie's parents' words, decided whether she felt good enough. It wasn't until she faced a life-changing setback that Annie finally understood. No one else can give me peace, purpose, or joy. That's my job. That's why Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend's words from their book, it's not my fault, hit me so hard. Stop giving away your power. We've all done it, waiting for someone else to change so we can move forward. But here's what I've learned from my own setbacks. Hoping someone else changes. Keeps you passive. waiting for circumstances to improve. Leaves you powerless. Blaming others keeps you bitter. Instead of better. Giving away power feels easier in the short term, but in the long run, it traps you in resentment and despair. The hard truth. Others may never change, but the empowering truth is this, you don't have to wait for them to. Power isn't about controlling people or outcomes. It's about remembering what's always in your control. Your thoughts, the story you tell yourself about what happened, your words, the language you use to describe your situation, your actions, the small steps you take toward healing. This is the foundation of resilience and the heart of my iCope2Hope resilience framework. Step one, develop a growth mindset. A fixed mindset says, I can't change. This is how life is. I'll never get past this, but a growth mindset reframes it. This is hard, but I can learn. I don't have to stay stuck. I can take one step forward, even if it's small. Dr. Carol Dweck calls this The power of yet you may not be where you wanna be yet, but that doesn't mean you never will. The word yet is a catalyst for hope. Here are two reflection questions to ask yourself. Where am I letting someone else's choices dictate my worth? What belief can I shift today from I can't to, I can. Step two, discover your superpowers. When you stop giving away power, you rediscover strengths. You forgot you had. I call them your superpowers. For example, resourcefulness. You've solved hard problems before you will again, compassion. You know how to listen and connect when others are hurting. Resilience, You've survived things you once thought would break you. Step three, think outside the box. Resilience isn't about going back to the old path. It's about creating new ones. If your boss doesn't value you, highlight your work differently or maybe look for a new role. If a relationship drains, you, set boundaries or consider a necessary ending. if circumstances limit you, pivot. Creativity is a form of power. It opens doors where others only see walls. So how do you stop giving away power in the moment? That's where my iCOPE Problem Solving Method comes in. I stands for, identify where you've handed over your power. C stands for, choose what's in your control, your thoughts, your Words in your actions. O stands for outlying possible responses. Go beyond the obvious. P stands for proceed with one small action, and E stands for evaluate what worked, what didn't, and what to try next forward. Motion restores hope, and even small wins create momentum. What happens when you take back your power? When you reclaim your power, confidence grows. You realize you're not stuck, you're choosing. Boundaries strengthen you. Stop tolerating what drains you. Hope returns you see options you couldn't see before. Resilience deepens. You face hard things without crumbling. Most importantly, you begin to flourish again. Before we close, let's bust a few myths about power. Myth number one, taking back power is selfish. False. The truth is it's not selfish, it's healthy. Myth number two, I'll hurt people if I stop giving them control. False, maybe. But the truth is staying stuck hurts you even more. Myth number three. If I take responsibility, it means what happened? Was my fault not true? Taking responsibility now is how you move forward no matter how unfair the past was. Here are three things you can do today. One, a journal prompt. Who or what am I waiting on to change before I move forward? Number two, write a power statement. One I can sentence about your next step. Example. I can choose how I respond to my boss even if she never notices my work. And number three, take one. Small action. Set a boundary, make a call, or change yourself talk. Let's recap what we talked about today. Why giving away power keeps you stuck. How the shift comes when you focus on your thoughts, words, and actions. The three steps in the iCope2Hope framework, developing a growth mindset, discovering your superpowers, and thinking outside the box with creativity. How the iCOPE Problem Solving Method helps you act in real time. What happens when you reclaim your power? You gain confidence, boundaries, hope and resilience. The bottom line, the moment you stop waiting is the moment you start flourishing. As I mentioned earlier, if you want tools to shift negative thoughts in the middle of tough moments, grab my free guide: Reframe the Spiral: 5 Quick Coping Strategies to Shift Negative Thoughts and Reclaim Your Day. The link is in the show notes. That's it for today's episode. Please subscribe so you'll know when future episodes release, and if this message spoke to you, leaving a rating or review would mean the world to me. It helps more people find this show Better yet, why not share this episode with three people in need of hope? Until next time. Remember, adversity can make you bitter or better. Choose better. You've got this!